Volleyball dilemma

SleepySmurf · **Volleyball dilemma -** 11-08-2005, 04:37 PM

Hi there my friend from school has a question that she wanted me to ask in the volleyball forum and I was wondering if anyone could answer the question on what my friend should do.

anyways here is what she gave to me to write on to the volleyball forum,

I have a problem with my coach.
See I made the Freshman volleyball team (I am very ungrateful for), I have been playing for 3 years now and that is just as long as the juniors on the varsity team have been playing. Anyway, the girls on my team have never played before and they make me frustrated because they aren't there to win they are there to have fun. So in the first week my coach grabbed one person at a time and told them what they were doing wrong, well when I got up there, she told me that I shouldn't be on her team and that I should be on the J.V. team or even the Varsity team, but since she had no say in who she would get on her team she couldn't do anything. In meantime I expected to play alot since I was actually the best player on the team (but I never acted like it), and in the last couple of weeks I have never gotten to play, last Tuesday I almost fell asleep on the bench (it was sad), I mean I could have beaten that team if it was just me playing but no I sat on the bench. I have talked to her and she said she couldn't do anything about it. My mom also talked to her and she said she was sorry I wasn't on the court.So what should I do? My mom keeps asking me if I want to quite, but I am afraid I will finally get to play.
Please help me out, what should I do?
Any suggestions would be great.

Thanks for anyone that can help

Pancake · 11-08-2005, 05:19 PM

I'm a believer that you should always make the best of a situation...and the situation your friend is in doesn't have to be a negative one.

First of all, she shouldn't be ungrateful for making the Freshman team. This is likely the reason she isn't getting any playing time. I, as a coach, also would not reward this behavior. Since she is far more talented then the rest of the team, she should be a leader. Leaders don't whine and pout. She should volunteer in demos and ask the coach if there is anything she could do to help the team. If she is on the bench, she should support the players on the floor - wouldn't she expect the same if she was playing? I guarantee that if she improved her attitude, she will play more...a lot more. If she can help her fellow teammates improve, she will find this to be much more rewarding that winning a few more games.

Whereas winning a game is an obvious goal to achieve, the personalities and integrity of team spirit may be devoid. The coach has already recognized the fact that there is a very competent player who should be playing a level up or two. That is also to say that the coach will recognize the type of attitude a player portrays too. In most sports societies being the best player doesn't always mean that you will be the star player. Attitude and discipline plays an equally important role. Recognizing this and accepting your own shortcomings will allow a bridge of understanding and trust to be developed between a player and a coach.

If the coach's philosophy is to just have fun, then try to do just that. That may be the goal of the game. The coach is gonna put people in the game who will have fun and portrays that. Those players share the same vision as the coach. If the only goal is to win, that's going to be a long and empty road to achieve. You won't make to many friends this way.

Lemiwinks · 11-09-2005, 12:57 AM

If your friend made freshman team she has to respect that, high school ball is a lot of favoritism, politics, seniorty, and A$$ kissing. She should talk to coach person to person asking what do i need to do toplay at the higher level? As far as not getting playing time it may be attitude. She should act like more of a leader, and if she is the best dont be afraid to let evryone know about it (but dont let that get out of hand). She needs to PROVE herself.

blowfish21 · 11-09-2005, 02:09 AM

There is a problem that arises if a better player gets involved with the game that less organized players play and that is they fall into learning or aquiring the bad habbits that the less organized players run. This is a problem that has proven itself time and time again in many players I have seen. Players running after ball and colliding bacause one player got used to picking up where many of their other teammates, that he/she played with before. siuddenly gets put onto or jumps on team with players that are always on top of their positions.

I'd have to say that encouraging your teammates in the game is good, you should always exhibit a positive attitude toward your teammates and even more so when your chips are down but if/when you get in the game let your teammates play the way they want to play but stick to your game and don't let others bring down your game or even corrupt it.

VBFOOL · 11-10-2005, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemiwinks

If your friend made freshman team she has to respect that, high school ball is a lot of favoritism, politics, seniorty, and A$$ kissing. She should talk to coach person to person asking what do i need to do toplay at the higher level? As far as not getting playing time it may be attitude. She should act like more of a leader, and if she is the best dont be afraid to let evryone know about it (but dont let that get out of hand). She needs to PROVE herself.

I completly agree with Lemiwinks 100% it may be attitude and once she proves herself there would be no issue. Seems also like she's complaining.

Glenn · 11-11-2005, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by SleepySmurf

Hi there my friend from school has a question that she wanted me to ask in the volleyball forum and I was wondering if anyone could answer the question on what my friend should do.

anyways here is what she gave to me to write on to the volleyball forum,

I have a problem with my coach.
See I made the Freshman volleyball team (I am very ungrateful for), I have been playing for 3 years now and that is just as long as the juniors on the varsity team have been playing. Anyway, the girls on my team have never played before and they make me frustrated because they aren't there to win they are there to have fun. So in the first week my coach grabbed one person at a time and told them what they were doing wrong, well when I got up there, she told me that I shouldn't be on her team and that I should be on the J.V. team or even the Varsity team, but since she had no say in who she would get on her team she couldn't do anything. In meantime I expected to play alot since I was actually the best player on the team (but I never acted like it), and in the last couple of weeks I have never gotten to play, last Tuesday I almost fell asleep on the bench (it was sad), I mean I could have beaten that team if it was just me playing but no I sat on the bench. I have talked to her and she said she couldn't do anything about it. My mom also talked to her and she said she was sorry I wasn't on the court. So what should I do? My mom keeps asking me if I want to quit, but I am afraid I will finally get to play.
Please help me out, what should I do?
Any suggestions would be great.

Thanks for anyone that can help

I'm not trying to be harsh but Sleepy do you think your friend may actually be a bad player and the coach is playing her better players? There is no I in Team but there is a ME! She has to prove her self, if shes not willing to do that then go to a club team. Just my POV.