Players Dating Players - A Life Lesson

Players dating players is not a bad thing in fact dating someone that loves the same sport can be great. Both of you can plan days where you both enjoy the activity. It’s been my experience that female players tend to date players at the same or slightly higher. This is probably a sub-conscious choice, one which actually probably has a bio chemical component, but this is as too complicated and falls outside of the scope of this article.

When we fall in love, we are excited, giddy and just stupid to the point of ridiculousness. It’s that feeling we hold on to for as long as possible because once it’s over the object of our affections will be seen as fallible and that’s where the problem really begins. Below I’ve listed the pros and cons of dating another player, at least how I see them.

PROS:

Spending time together – Now you have something you both enjoy doing together.
You have a doubles partner – Yes, you don’t have to go looking for that doubles partner.
Now you can car pool – Gas at $2.50 - $3.00 a gallon, why not car pool.
Shared experiences – Wins and losses are shared and the level of heightened emotion aids in the relationship’s success.
Total package feeling – You can’t help but think how lucky you are to have found someone that is the “Total Package”. This is why doctors date doctors, lawyers date lawyers etc. We tend to date in the area we know best, the areas we can relate.

CONS:

Injuries & Illness – This is the worst, guilt sets in that you’re playing and they are not or the reverse, they’re playing and you’re not. Resentment starts and you push yourself which only leads to a bigger problem.
Protectiveness – Usually running in male players, the need to protect the female from injury or reacting to almost every dive scrape or aggressive contact with an “Are you ok?”. Do this enough and she will get annoyed.
Jealousy – Commenting or staring and mentioning that a player is better then you. Feelings of inadequacy start to set in. Even if you have nothing to worry about this is a huge problem for many and only creates what you fear most.
Breaking up – This is the worse of the CONS, she’s your setter or he’s on your team. You love the way they play and you still have feelings for them, however you have to place the game higher and move on. Do you stay on the team or make them leave? What do you do? This is not an easy question to answer, the best advice I can give is date another player, and if your ex can’t handle it then they will leave.

There are a lot of factors to consider when playing with someone you are dating and it’s important to know that it can be a great thing. Sometimes, it works out, and sometimes it doesn’t but you won’t know until you try.

Good Luck From A Player That Dated Another Player And Will Do It Again!